{"id":9303,"date":"2026-07-14T14:38:49","date_gmt":"2026-07-14T14:38:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wellnessfirst365.com\/?p=9303"},"modified":"2026-07-14T14:38:49","modified_gmt":"2026-07-14T14:38:49","slug":"20-little-things-in-life-90-years-of-wisdom-told-me-to-stop-worrying-about","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wellnessfirst365.com\/?p=9303","title":{"rendered":"20 Little Things in Life 90 Years of Wisdom Told Me to Stop Worrying About"},"content":{"rendered":"<div itemprop=\"text\">\n<p><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p align=\"center\">Worry gives little things a big shadow.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Some people wait all day for 5pm, all week for Friday, all year for the holidays, all their lives for happiness. Don\u2019t be one of them. Don\u2019t wait until your life is almost over to realize how good it has been. The secret to happiness and peace on the average day is letting each moment be what it is, instead of what you think it should be, and then making the very best of it \u2014 less worry and more presence every step of the way.<\/p>\n<p>So go ahead and sing out loud in the car with the windows down, and dance in your <span id=\"more-4057\"\/>living room, and stay up late laughing, and paint your walls any color you want, and enjoy some sweet wine and chocolate cake. Yes, and go ahead and sleep in on clean white sheets, and throw parties, and paint, and write poetry, and read books so good they make you lose track of time. And just keep living and making God glad that he gave life to someone who loves and cherishes the gift\u2026<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Think deeply.<\/li>\n<li>Speak gently.<\/li>\n<li>Love lots.<\/li>\n<li>Laugh often.<\/li>\n<li>Work hard.<\/li>\n<li>Give back.<\/li>\n<li>Expect less.<\/li>\n<li>Be present.<\/li>\n<li>Be kind.<\/li>\n<li>Be honest.<\/li>\n<li>Be true to yourself\u2026<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>And whatever you do, don\u2019t let the wrong things worry you or consume your time for too long!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Read that bolded line above again. It\u2019s one of the core lessons my grandma shared with me and reminded me of frequently in the final few years before she died. She did so because she loved me, and because, at 90-years-old, she had lived long enough to know that most of us let the little frustrations, drama, and distractions of each day blind us to the beauty in front of us.<\/p>\n<p>We get caught up in our own heads, and literally don\u2019t know our lives to be any better than the few things that aren\u2019t going our way. Other times we talk a big talk about a lot of stuff that really doesn\u2019t matter that much. We scrutinize and dramatize the insignificant until we\u2019re blue in the face, and then we sit back and scratch our heads in bewilderment of how unfulfilling life feels.<\/p>\n<p>But the older we grow, the quieter we become and the less pointless drama and chaos we engage in. <strong>Life humbles us gradually as we age.<\/strong> We realize how much nonsense we\u2019ve worried about and wasted time on.<\/p>\n<p>Truth be told, <strong>the afternoon always understands what the morning never even suspected.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Here are some things I learned from my grandma\u2019s 90 years of wisdom, that I have also gradually validated for myself over the past decade and a half \u2014 little things we all tend to focus on and worry about when we\u2019re younger, that we eventually realize matter a lot less than we originally thought:<\/p>\n<h2>1. The inevitable frustrations of an average day.<\/h2>\n<p>90 percent of what\u2019s stressing you out today won\u2019t matter a month from now. Sooner or later you will know this for certain. So just <strong>do your best to let go of the nonsense,<\/strong> stay positive, and move forward with grace and purpose.<\/p>\n<h2>2. The failures you often feel self-conscious about.<\/h2>\n<p>When you set goals and take calculated risks in life, you eventually learn that there will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail, and both are equally important in the long run. <strong>We learn the way on the way.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>3. How \u201cperfect\u201d everything could be or should be.<\/h2>\n<p><strong>Understanding the difference between reasonable striving and perfectionism is critical<\/strong> to letting go of fantasies and picking up your life. Perfectionism not only causes you unnecessary stress and anxiety from the superficial need to always \u201cget it right,\u201d it actually prevents you from getting anything worthwhile done at all.<\/p>\n<h2>4. Having complete confidence before taking the first step.<\/h2>\n<p>Confidence is that inner inertia that propels us to bypass our empty fears and self-doubts. On the road of life, we come to realize that we rarely have confidence when we begin traveling a new path, but as we move forward and tap into our inner and outer resources, our confidence gradually builds. A common mistake many young people make is wanting to feel confident before they start something, whether it\u2019s a new job, a new relationship, living in a new city, etc. But it doesn\u2019t happen like that. <strong>You have to step out of your comfort zone, and risk your pride, to earn the reward of finding your confidence.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>5. The details about what\u2019s in it for you every step of the way.<\/h2>\n<p>Time teaches us that we keep almost nothing in this life until we first give it away \u2014 this is true of knowledge, forgiveness, service, love, tolerance, acceptance, and so forth. <strong>Most of the time you have to give to receive.<\/strong> Such a simple point, and yet it\u2019s so easy to forget that the giving of ourselves, without a price tag, has to come FIRST! It\u2019s the giving that opens us up to grace and progress.<\/p>\n<h2>6. Being an online-only activist for good causes.<\/h2>\n<p>The internet was a lot younger when my grandma caught me debating people in an online bulletin board. And she reminded me right then that while online is fine, <strong>if you truly want to make a difference you have to walk the talk too.<\/strong> So don\u2019t just rant online for a better world today. Love your family. Be a good neighbor. Practice kindness. Build bridges. Embody what you preach.<\/p>\n<h2>7. The pressures of making a big difference (all at once).<\/h2>\n<p>When we\u2019re young it seems like faster is better, but in time we witness the power of \u201cslow and steady\u201d at work. <strong>We come to learn that no act of love, kindness or generosity, no matter how small, is ever wasted.<\/strong> The fact that you can plant a seed and it becomes a flower, share a bit of knowledge and it becomes another\u2019s, smile at someone and receive a smile in return, is proof that YOU can make a big difference in life and business, even it can\u2019t be done all at once.<\/p>\n<h2>8. Quick fixes.<\/h2>\n<p>The older your eyes grow, the more clearly they can see through the smoke and mirrors of every quick fix or short cut. Honestly, I used to believe that making wishes and saying prayers alone changed things, but now I know that wishes and prayers change us, and WE change things. It\u2019s our daily dedication that paves the road of progress.<\/p>\n<p>All details aside, when it comes to making a substantial change in your life \u2014 building a business, earning a degree, fostering a new relationship, starting a family, becoming more mindful, or any other personal journey that takes time and commitment \u2014 one thing you have to ask yourself is: \u201cAm I willing to spend a little time every day like many people won\u2019t, so I can spend the better part of my life like many people can\u2019t?\u201d Think about that for a moment. <strong>We ultimately become what we repeatedly do.<\/strong> The acquisition of knowledge doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re growing \u2014 growing happens when what you know changes how you live on a daily basis.<\/p>\n<h2>9. Having a calendar jam-packed with plans.<\/h2>\n<p><strong>Don\u2019t jam your life with plans. Leave space.<\/strong> Over time you will learn that many great things happen unplanned, and some big regrets happen by not reaching exactly what was planned. So keep your life ordered and your schedule under-booked. Create a foundation with a soft place to land, a wide margin of error, and room to think and breathe every step of the way.<\/p>\n<h2>10. Being in constant control of everything.<\/h2>\n<p>The older we get the more we realize how little we actually control. And there\u2019s no good reason to hold yourself down with things you can\u2019t control. Learn to trust the journey, even when you do not understand it. <strong>Oftentimes what you never wanted or expected turns out to be what you need.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>11. Blaming others.<\/h2>\n<p>Have you ever met a successful person who regularly evades responsibility, blames and points fingers and makes excuses for their unsatisfying life? Me neither. On the average day <strong>successful people accept responsibility<\/strong> for how their lives unfold. They believe their own progress in life is a byproduct of their own thinking, beliefs, attitudes, character and behavior. And although it takes time to fully grasp this, it\u2019s a lesson worth learning.<\/p>\n<h2>12. Obsessing yourself with the numbers.<\/h2>\n<p>They\u2019ll try to measure your worth based on what you have, instead of who you are. But you know better than that \u2014 shiny objects and flashy figures don\u2019t matter that much. Don\u2019t just chase the money. <strong>Don\u2019t just chase the numbers. Catch up to the ideas and activities that make you come alive.<\/strong> Go for the things of greater value \u2014 the things money can\u2019t buy. What matters is having strength of character, an honest heart, and a sense of self-worth. (Note: Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the Self-Love and Simplicity chapters of \u201c1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently\u201d.)<\/p>\n<h2>13. The idea of saving certain people from themselves.<\/h2>\n<p><strong>Some people will never understand, and it\u2019s not your job to teach or change them. Prioritize your peace today.<\/strong> Seriously, you simply can\u2019t save some people from themselves, so don\u2019t get sucked too deep into their drama. Those who make perpetual chaos of their lives won\u2019t appreciate you interfering with the commotion they\u2019ve created anyway. They want your \u201cpoor baby\u201d sympathy, but they don\u2019t want to change, at least not yet \u2014 they aren\u2019t ready. And again, it\u2019s not your job to rush them.<\/p>\n<h2>14. The selfish and disparaging things others say and do.<\/h2>\n<p>If you take everything personally, you will inevitably be offended for the rest of your life, and that just isn\u2019t worth it. At some point it becomes crystal clear that <strong>the way people treat you is their problem, and how you react is yours.<\/strong> Start taking full advantage of the amazing freedom that comes to you when you detach from other people\u2019s opinions and antics.<\/p>\n<h2>15. Winning every argument.<\/h2>\n<p>Don\u2019t define your intelligence or self-worth by the number of arguments you have won, but by the number of times you have confidently told yourself, \u201cThis nonsense is just not worth it!\u201d Exit swiftly when you must, because not much is worth fighting about for long. And try not to regret the kindness and respect you have shown to the wrong people \u2014 <strong>your behavior says everything about you, and their behavior says more than enough about them. Carry on, with grace.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>16. Judging others for their shortcomings.<\/h2>\n<p>We all have days when we\u2019re not our best. And the older we grow the more we realize how important it is to give others the break we hope the world will give us on our own bad days. Truly, <strong>you never know what someone has been through in their life, or what they\u2019re going through today.<\/strong> Just be kind, generous and respectful\u2026 and then be on your way.<\/p>\n<h2>17. Society\u2019s obsession with outer beauty.<\/h2>\n<p>As you grow older, what you look like on the outside becomes less and less of an issue, and <strong>who you are on the inside becomes the primary point of interest.<\/strong> You eventually realize that true beauty has almost nothing to do with looks \u2014 it\u2019s who you are as a person, how you make others feel about themselves, and most importantly, how you feel about yourself.<\/p>\n<h2>18. Fancy and glamorous physical possessions.<\/h2>\n<p>Your personal wish list for big-ticket physical possessions tends to get smaller and smaller as you age into your sunset years, because <strong>the things you really want and need are the little things that can\u2019t be bought.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>19. Shallow relationships that just keep you busy.<\/h2>\n<p>It\u2019s nice to have acquaintances, and it\u2019s great to be friendly. But <strong>don\u2019t get carried away and spread yourself too thin.<\/strong> Leave plenty of time for those who matter most. Your time is extremely limited, and sooner or later you just want to be around the few people who make you smile for all the right reasons.<\/p>\n<h2>20. Distant future possibilities.<\/h2>\n<p>As time passes, you naturally have more of it behind you and less of it in front of you. The distant future, then, gradually has less value to you personally. But that doesn\u2019t really matter, because the good life always begins right now, when you stop waiting for a better one. Remember, some people wait all day for 5pm, all week for Friday, all year for the holidays, all their lives for happiness, and you don\u2019t be one of them. <strong>Right now is LIFE! Don\u2019t miss it!<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>It\u2019s your turn\u2026<\/h3>\n<p>Yes, it\u2019s your turn to walk in my grandma\u2019s footsteps today \u2014 to live a life that moves and shakes and makes you laugh out loud. Because you don\u2019t want to get to the end of it all, or to tomorrow even, and realize that your entire life is a collection of meetings and \u201csomedays\u201d and errands and receipts and empty promises. So count your blessings today, value the people and things that truly matter, and move on from the drama and distractions with your head held high\u2026<\/p>\n<p><b>And before you go, please leave Angel and me a comment below and let us know what you think of this essay. Your feedback is important to us.<\/b> \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p><strong>Which one of the points above resonated the most today?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Finally, if you haven\u2019t done so already, be sure to sign-up for our free newsletter to receive new articles like this in your inbox each week.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Worry gives little things a big shadow. Some people wait all day for 5pm, all week for Friday, all year for the holidays, all their lives for happiness. 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